Is procrastination something you wish wasn't a part of your life? I know people who have that facility to decide on a project, and follow it all the way through easily and quickly, each step just seeming to emerge with flow from the last. And, lately I've had that happen for me as well. I attribute that to my work on myself with Reference Point Therapy (RPT) In the past, however, I would get things started and then either not finish them or delay for a long time before completion. I know how debilitating procrastination can feel.
Over my years as a leadership development trainer in business, I've become familiar with a number of personality type indicators that are designed to understand how a person functions. Probably one of the most famous is the MBTI Personality Test (Myers and Briggs Type Indicator). One of the four continuum's is an indicator of how you like to structure your outer world. In dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? Often called Judging (quick decision makers) or Perceiving (always wanting new or more information), our tendency to procrastinate usually finds us typed on the "P" side of the scale. Maybe the letter "p" used in this scale is a coincidence and maybe not.
Knowing that you are one of those folks who delay or wait or hold out for more information, insight or awareness can be helpful knowledge. Sometimes when you are aware of something you can recognize and navigate through it more easily. When this tendency becomes personally annoying or actually impedes our forward movement and success it is time for more than just information. It is time to consider action.
What actions can you take that effectively lessen or dissolve the tendencies toward procrastination. Traditional analysis and therapy is one option, and it takes a long, long time. Another might be work that changes beliefs about delaying or acting. When the procrastination is at the mental or ego level, then this work can be effective as well. Procrastination is usually at a much deeper and more instinctual level, thus rendering belief work ineffective or only partially effective. (Also, changing beliefs at the neocortex level of the brain while leaving associations at the more instintual level in place can create great interal conflict and even more paralysis.) Reference Point Therapy is the fastest and most effective modality for change at the instinctual level, that I've ever found and I've searched for 40 plus years.
What do you mean by a deeper or instinctual level? At the level of our biology, the instinctual or r-complex brain often drives our behavior. Stated simply, procrastination is a type of paralysis. And freezing or paralysis is a safety and survival mechanism. In my clients I have found the connection/association of delaying action with safety and survival. Another way this can be wired is that taking action or completion is associated with danger, loss or emotional or physical pain of some kind. Of course, each case/individual is different.
I've had some amazing success with various types of procrastination using Reference Point Therapy. One client wasn't finishing business proposals because it meant ending the relationships with the client and it was keeping the relationship active that gave my client a feeling of connection. At the end of our session completing the four proposals that were hanging out, seemed easy and doable and actually inviting where before there was a feeling of great resistance.
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